Which is why I struggle every Father's Day to think of what to do for him. My father is notoriously difficult to buy presents for, as he has very few wants and what he does desire, he usually gets for himself (books), or shouldn't be encouraged (heart attack-inducing chocolate).
Then I thought of the 5 Love Languages. In a nutshell, these love languages refer to our preferred styles of receiving love and affection, e.g. some people love to be hugged, while others feel most loved when you spend quality time with them. Most people think of these languages in the context of a romantic relationship, but they extend to children, friends, etc. Why not parents?
I encourage you to visit the above link to find out about the different love languages and your preferred style. Then, work out what your dad's preferred language is and come up with a Father's Day gift to suit him! Some initial ideas:
Words of Affirmation
If your dad most values words of appreciation, write him a letter to tell him all the things you value about your relationship. Thank him for the things he's done for you, the times he's supported you, and all the qualities you like about him. Does he have a great sense of humour? Is he a 'cool' dad? Do you just want to tell him you love him for who he is? Say it in the letter -- or maybe even aloud as a toast.
Acts of Service
This is the dad who likes it when you go out of your way to do something for him. If you're handy in the kitchen, make him a really excellent breakfast, complete with all his favourite foods. He'll appreciate the time and energy you put into this! The food is also a mega bonus.
Receiving Gifts
Does your dad like receiving tangible gifts? Aim for something that appeals to his personal interests. As a child, I grew up giving my dad a tie every year until I realized he didn't care about ties. An ideal present for him these days would be a recently published general science book on neuroscience and/or the brain, his latest passion. (Unfortunately, I know nothing about this topic and have no idea which books he has anymore as we live in different countries, so if anyone has a suggestion for me, I'd appreciate that!)
Quality Time
Maybe your father wants to spend time with you more than anything else. In that case, plan a pleasant day together. Depending on what he likes to do, this could range from anything like go-karting or hiking to a picnic or quiet day at home together (perhaps playing board games?). What's valuable here is giving him your full attention -- so make sure your phone stays firmly in your pocket!
Physical Touch
This dad gives the best bear hugs in the world. So make sure you give him plenty of great hugs of your own. Kiss him on the cheek, hold his hand, or whatever is appropriate for your family.
Since we all enjoy all five love languages to different extents, you can combine a few or all of the above demonstrations of affection to celebrate a really great Father's Day for your personal dad. Happy Dad's Day!